In a survey of adults raised with unhealthy control, percentages who said:

As children they felt...

	Forbidden to question or disagree with their parents: 90 percent
	Pleasing their parents was more important than being themselves: 86 percent
	Tense or on guard when their parents were around: 96 percent
	That it was not okay to express anger, fear or sadness: 96 percent
	Hemmed in and without choices: 96 percent

As adults they...

	Feel perfectionistic, driven, or rarely satisfied: 82 percent
	Worry or ruminate over confrontations: 96 percent
	Are easily angered around controlling people: 91 percent
	Feel extra-sensitive to criticism: 91 percent
	Feel tense when they think about visiting their parents: 78 percent
	Feel that their parents don't really know them as they really are: 91 percent
	Feel that it has taken a long time to separate from their parents: 82 percent

In retrospect, their parents...

	Seemed unwilling to admit it when they were wrong: 100 percent
	Seemed unaware of the pain they caused others: 100 percent
	Viewed the world in right-or-wrong, black-and-white terms: 96 percent
	Encouraged connections with others outside the family: 14 percent
	Encouraged their children to express feelings: 5 percent