Suggestions
on Finding a Psychotherapist
A qualified psychotherapist who you can trust can be a very valuable resource in your growth and healing. Here are some suggestions for finding a therapist in your area:
1) Look for therapists who are licensed by your state (or who are supervised by a licensed psychotherapist)
2) Look for therapists who belong to at least one professional association. While this isn't necessarily a guarantee of excellence, and there are plenty of very good therapists who are not members of these groups, such membership generally indicates a commitment to continuing training and to staying abreast of developments in the field. Listed below are several professional organizations
3) Ask trusted medical, health or educational professionals, as well as trusted friends or colleagues, for names of qualified local psychotherapists.
4) If you are seeking counseling primarily related to the issues raised in the book If You Had Controlling Parents, you might seek a therapist who has experience working with, or specializes in helping, adults raised in dysfunctional, controlling, or abusive families.
5) Recognize that psychotherapy may not always be a comfortable process, but it needs to be a safe process. In choosing a therapist, it may be helpful to call two or three therapists and schedule an initial visit with each before deciding whom to work with. Some people may prefer to work with a male therapist; others with a female; some want a younger therapist; others like an older therapist. Some therapists tend to listen and say little; others freely give advice. (My orientation, particularly in working with people from controlling families, is somewhere in the middle -- I find it is not helpful to be a removed, distant, "blank screen" in the old psychoanalytic model; nor do I find it helpful to talk so much that clients feel as if I am telling them what to do, instead of listening.) Whatever your preference, listen to and honor your gut instincts in making your choice.
Dan Neuharth, Ph.D., MFT (Calif. Lic#MFC29178)
Professional organizations for therapists
Marriage and Family Therapists: The American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy. Online directory of AAMFT member therapists
Most states also have a professional organization of marriage and family therapists. See your local Yellow Pages -- look under "Marriage and Family therapists" or "Marriage counselors" -- for the local chapter of your state's Association of Marriage and Family Therapists. Most local chapters provide a referral number you can call to find out detailed information about member therapists' backgrounds, fees, and specializations.
Psychologists: The American Psychological Association. Online information about referrals to psychologists
Most states also have professional organizations of psychologists. See your local Yellow Pages -- look under "Psychologists" -- for the local chapter of your state's Psychological Association. Most local chapters provide a referral number you can call to find out detailed information about member therapists' backgrounds, fees, and specializations.
Clinical Social Workers: The National Association of Social Workers. Online directory of NASW member therapists
Most states also have professional organizations of social workers. See your local Yellow Pages -- look under "Social Workers" or "Clinical Social Workers" -- for the local chapter of your state's Association of Social Workers. Most local chapters provide a referral number you can call to find out detailed information about member therapists' backgrounds, fees, and specializations.
Self-Help and Psychology Online DirectoriesLinks to mental health, psychology, and self-help resources that you may find useful:
Adults Recovering from Narcissistic Parents Support Group
Mental Help Net
Open Directory Project Support Groups
Self Improvement Online
Healing Resources
Yahoo! Mental Health
Future Health
Internet Mental Health Links
More Links . . .(Please note: websites and organizations listed above are neither created or maintained by Dan Neuharth, Ph.D. Neither www.controllingparents.com nor Dan Neuharth, Ph.D. offers any representation or guarantee as to the accuracy, quality, or appropriateness of content found on these sites.)
